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| January is the time when many of us consider making a major life change. Mary Hynd talks to two people who did more than just think about it, they had the courage to act.
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Nick Williams was working in IT when friends who were launching a publishing business asked him if he’d be interested in writing pocket walking guides which would include all of Scotland’s Munros (mountains over 3000 ft). The routes would all be circular, cause minimum environmental damage, take people to areas off the usual tourist trail and be full of interest for the walker. |
Nick Williams |
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| Taking a step into the unknown is difficult for anyone but when you’re walking in the dark, it can seem impossible. For Philip Sime, the realisation that he was losing his sight heralded a very difficult period in his life. “I found it extremely hard to accept I had a problem,” he admits. And his deteriorating sight was something Philip tried to keep to himself. “I was just a teenager and all my friends were passing their driving tests, going to nightclubs and out with girlfriends — just being typical teenagers. But I found this increasingly difficult to deal with and would make excuses to stay in because I knew I couldn’t cope with going out with them.” Philip thought he could manage with the little vision he had but when he was registered blind after a routine eye appointment, the realisation that his life wasn’t going to be the way he’d dreamed hit him hard. “I focused on the negative and all the things I’d never be able to do. I thought all I could do was have a drink, and if I tripped or stumbled over things people would just think I’d had a little too much. “I felt really left out and didn’t know how to interact with people. I couldn’t read facial expressions or see body language. The thing that used to really frustrate me was when I went on trains or buses and couldn’t find a seat. “I knew I wasn’t dealing with the situation. I saw life heading in a downward spiral. I wasn’t working. I wasn’t doing anything. I was very fed up and frustrated.” Philip reveals that he spent between three and four years trying to come to terms with his blindness. Then life started to improve when he met and married Helen. But Philip was still trying to live independently, insisting on going out alone. Then an accident made him reassess what he was doing. “I went out to the shops and walked straight into a pole and badly injured my face. I thought someone had come up and attacked me! When I went home I told Helen, I can’t do this any more. I’m going to cause either myself or someone else real harm. I’m six foot seven and about 19 stone and you can’t go around bumping into people. I was heading for a disaster.” That was when he called Guide Dogs. For Philip, this wasn’t a positive step but one he’d dreaded. “I felt this was the last straw — I thought there was a stigma. Although my friends knew my eyesight was bad, none of them realised to what extent. It’s not something you sit down and chat about. I was always making excuses. I didn’t think it would be cool to have a blind mate.” Philip was surprised it took just seven months before he was paired with a dog, Ryan, which would suit him. “At first I found it very difficult to put my trust in Ryan. I used to walk with my left hand on the harness and my right hand out, so I’d look like a bit of a robot. I remember when I came home with a dog people would ask if I’d just lost my eyesight because suddenly they saw me with the dog. They thought I’d lost my sight overnight because I’d kept the problem hidden for so long. It was a bit of a relief that I didn’t have to hide my disability any more.” Philip soon realised that his decision to call Guide Dogs had changed his life for the better. “Suddenly, I was able to be independent. I didn’t have to ask people to do things for me all the time.” Ryan gave Philip the confidence he needed to go to college and start working. “He gave me a new lease of life. Now I’m a researcher for BBC Radio Scotland and have to go out recording. If someone asks me to do something, I can do it. This has been a great achievement — being able to work independently. And when I’m out doing interviews, my dog is a great ice-breaker. People don’t treat me differently as all the attention is on my dog. And it’s always positive attention.” Ryan has now retired to live with Philip’s mum in Lanark, and a new dog, Zimba, has become part of the family. Philip and Helen have two children, Tammy and Jack, who know that Dad’s dog is something special. “He’s good with the family,” Philip says. “And thanks to him I can take them out bowling, or to the park. The dog gives so much independence. It amazes me what they can do. If you’ve been somewhere once, they’ll remember.” Philip’s confidence in his four-legged friend meant he was able to accept a job in Inverness and move with this family from Cambuslang to the Highlands. “It’s like moving somewhere with a hood over your head. Nothing was familiar. But I let the dog do the work for me. I trust Zimba completely. As long as he has his head up, so do I.” |
Philip Sime |
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